3 Step Proven Formula To Remain Single Indefinitely

Now I’m going to share with you a step by step proven method on how you girls can remain single indefinitely.

If you read now, I’ll even throw in a lifetime guarantee that this method does work. In fact if you don’t believe me, I’ll get you to listen to the countless testimonials from my girlfriends on how much this formula has worked for them.

Now I know your excited right? Well don’t let me leave you hanging, well get stuck into this straight away.

Tip #1

Be insanely cynical. Now I’m talking about the real deal here. I’m saying you have to go to the depths of cynicism and rip the roots out and then carry it around in your handbag, wearing it as a badge of honor that screams “I’ve been hurt, get the F*** away from me”.

If you don’t do it to this extreme, then sorry, it just aint gonna work.

Not only are you to wear this cynicism on your sleeve, you must also be cynical particularly about men. You must believe that all men are cheaters, liars, manipulators whose sole purpose is to make the a woman’s world a living hell. You must also believe that you will be taken advantage of as soon as you given anything of yourself and that you will be used, abused and discarded at any man’s leisure. Cynisaism, that is the first and most important key. Now lets move onto the next tip.

Tip #2

Be a rock hard B*tch Yeh you heard me. I am talking to you. I mean you need to be the most stubborn, inflexible, short tempered, demanding and controlling woman you can be. Your hissy fits need to put 5 year old temper tantrum to shame. I expect cat fights with your best friends over a un-returned bobbing pin. I’m thinking like major PMS like 24/7. The smallest things have to trigger your anger and when you are angry, then you must ensure that not only do your neighbors neighbors hear you …. But people in the next street feel compelled to call the police because they think a domestic is going on, when really you have just realized that your out of toothpaste.

You need a fuse shorter than a mini matchstick and make impossible demands that the USA military couldn’t even fill. When a man has the nerve to cancel a date on you, or god forbid comes 10 minute late, you are to arrange an assault that man, his car and his dog, which is relentless until he profusely apologizes and kneels down on the floor in front of you in the fetal position like a quivering mess.

If you are unable to do this. Then I just don’t think you are cut out to be single. This leads to the next point

Tip #3

Always want more, more, more dammit!
To be ganuranteed singlessness for an eternity you must never be happy with what you have. The grass IS ALWAYS greener on the other side. Attached women are always happier than their single friend counterparts. Your best friend’s boyfriend, was the perfect catch and all the other men are gay or taken. Whatever the current men in your dating life are doing its not enough. He is too skinny and his wallet isn’t fat enough. He is academically smart but so life stupid. You would love to meet his parents, but the mental institution only allows visits during times you are working. Lets face it, he slurps his soup funny.

You want the one guy you are dating to ask you to be his girlfriend. You want your boyfriend to ask you to marry you. You want your husband to want to have kids. You want your husband to put you before the kids. Etc, ect. Desperate housewives is based on real life stories.

You are strictly only to focus on the past and to daydream of the future. By no means are you allowed to enjoy the process of life now. You are not and I mean NOT to celebrate any benefits of being single, you are not to talk, speak or act upon urges of happiness or content.

Your aim for each day is to find as many things to complain about being single and under no circumstances should you ever be happy about it. You are to be miserable at all times and if you are not miserable then you are to be angry bitchy and PeeMmmSsssy.

You should only operate between these two emotions. Now following all 3 tips I can guarantee you will ensure your single status indefinitely.

Now don’t worry if you can’t get all 3 tips then mastering one of them to the best of your ability is more than enough. This will ensure that men run for the hills, faster than you can scream “why don’t you love me?!!?!”.

So for all those women that has mastered this art, welcome to the world of single hood. You are going to enjoy it for a very long time.

For all you other girls who only half ass this, then I’m sorry, singlehood for you just doesn’t look very bright.

Can’t win them all.

Sorry.

Hot Alpha Female

P.S (For those women who a really annoyed right now ... this post was meant to be sarcastic =)

Why Picky Women - Never Get Dates They Want

Yes. That’s right. You heard me. I did just say that.

Now for the women reading this who are getting a little infuriated at my title heading I urge you to stay with me and keep reading on …

Because you are the kind of woman, that needs help. Right now your probably thinking of 1000 reasons that completely justify your right to be picky, bitchy and a little hissy.

Think I’m wrong. Well let me just regurgitate a typical conversation I’ll have with a woman about men.

“There is no one out there that is worth dating”

“All the good looking men are gay or taken”

“All the guys that are interested in me, I’m not interested in them”

“Guys are really confusing”

“I really don’t understand men”

Ok so usually there are variations of these types of conversations, but most of them boil down to those 5 juicy ones I just shared with you.

Now what in the world does this have to do about women being picky or bitchy. Well the first thing that I want you to realize is the nature of these comments.

See how they are all blaming something or someone outside you own control. Its either the guy isn’t right, the situation isn’t right or the way someone likes you isn’t right.

Well let me just say, that nothing and I mean nothing in your dating world will change unless something about YOU changes first.

I know, I know. It sounds all cliché and relationship materially. But let me put it to you in layman’s terms.

Its not HIM. Its YOU.

Every single dating problem you have, is a result of you. You, you and only you. It’s a harsh truth I know. But it is also incredibly empowering. Because if it relies solely on you, then that means you are in full control of what happens from now on.

So if it is up to us, then what are some of the crucial lessons we have to learn. Well let me give you a head start.

Now just to mention that when I had this SIMPLE mindset shift, I went from dating no-one in particular to 4 new guys (3 of which I’m still seeing) and countless dates, in ONE single month. My dating life, magically transformed before my very eyes. And so now I want to share the same thing with you.

What was this simple mindset shift? Before I tell you, let me remind you, that it is the most “simple truths” we come across in our life that have the power to completely change it.

Well here it is, so make sure your reading carefully.

“Start to appreciate the guys that are currently in your life.”

That’s it.

Now for those women reading this who are profoundly disappointed with how simple this is, let me explain.

From all the “single” women that I meet, interview and socialize with – Every single one of them will have at LEAST one guy – who so badly wants to take them on a date and at the very least has a crush on them.

And from most of these single women – they have abruptly brushed them off to the side and are wondering when prince charming is heading around the corner.

Well wake up and smell the dead roses.

Because “that guy” ain’t going to be coming, because he is watching how you are treating the other men in your life.

That’s right. Your prince charming. Well he is a smart fella, and he isn’t gonna wanna step foot into your dominion, until you start respecting, receiving and appreciating the attention that you currently have, but neglect to see.

Now this mindset shift will be the spark that gets the engine running and the wheel spinning. Because it will mean, that finally you will say yes to that guy that clearly has liked you for way too long. And you will go on that date, you will smile and laugh at LEAST once and you will practice the art of receiving from a man (very tough to do for some women, but practice makes perfect). And when you do that, it will be easier to say yes to another date and it will be easier to smile at the cute guy at the book store and it will seem more appropriate to look your best when your out and about. It will start to feel more natural to be admired, appreciated and complimented and that wonderful feminine and vibrant energy within us women will radiate out to the world.

Being appreciative of the men in your life, lights up the beacon in your soul – and that makes it easier for that “someone” to find you. That’s what gratitude does.

So next time you feel like complaining, whining, moaning, bitching and hissing about men. Take even just a few seconds before you do that, to appreciate all the wonderful men already in your life and perhaps the ones to come.

I guarantee it works, it has worked for me, it has worked for others and it will work for you =)

I know that it will work so much that next week, you will get my 5 top juicy secrets for dating multiple men.

Because that of course is the next challenge ….

Hot Alpha Female

Why Your In The FriendZone and How To Get OUT!

Ok so here is the thing. I get a ton of emails from girls and (mainly) guys who have someone in their life who is a close friend, but who they secretly want to date.

What do I mean by secretly. Well simply that! This "friend" has NO freaking idea that you like them, or would want to "get to know them" in that way.

So what am I really describing here? Well NO OTHER than the "FriendZone!". Being called a friend by someone that you "like" might as well as be the kiss of death.

But if some of you have thrown yourself in that basket anyways, then I guess I could lend a helping hand.

In this you-tube video I'm going to tell you why you are in the FriendZone and THEN what you can do to get out of it and avoid it at all costs in the future.

Ready when you are =)

Click here to check out the video

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Attraction Attraction Attraction ... Is It Really A Choice?

This was an extra long tweet that I wrote last night and I thought I would love to have your opinion on it too!

"Attraction Isn't A Choice" - How true is this statement really? Read away and let me know.

@charleshercules: Well dude I could like go and on about attraction, but let me put it as simply as I can.

Attraction isn't a choice. I believe that for men and women this is very true.

How do you exactly explain it? Well let me give you an example.

Say you have a female friend who is attractive, intelligent and quite frankly you would date her, in fact you like her and WANT to date her.

You are friends and you flirt occasionally and have a really good time together. You think the more time you spend with her, the more things you buy her, the more she is going to like you.

Because lets face it, it makes perfect logical sense.

I mean your a nice guy, she is a sweet girl, heck her parents think you are the bomb! Then what happens? Some dude from somewhere with a bad ass attitude with multiple girlfriends and a player attitude comes along.

Her parents can't stand him, her friends can't stand him and really it seems like the only one that can is your friend (who is a girl). Who just so happens to be infatuated with him. Wants to be with him all the time and experiences the highs and lows of being with a guy who is a challenge, mostly unavailable, stand offish.

Heck he doesn't even treat her as nicely as he should, yet he has her eating out the palm of his hands.

Now I drive this story to the extreme to demonstrate a point. But to be honest, this is a situation that I see fairly often, if not ALL the time.

So what does this have to do with attraction?

Well the very fact that if you sat down with your girl (friend) and asked her what are you looking for in a guy. She would say something like .. Well I want him to be a good guy. Who is sweet, takes care of me and is genuine. I want him to be funny and kind. bla bla bla.

Who does she ACTUALLY date? The guy who is aloof, never has enough time for her, sees her when its convenient and has the emotional availability of a brick.

So is the statement Attraction Isn't A Choice becoming more apparent now?

The truth is, this chick has NO FREAKING IDEA why the heck she is attracted to this other dude, when she has a guy who is fabulous standing right next to her.

What will she say about you? Yeh "you are a really nice guy(kiss of death)" but I just "excuse, excuse, excuse".

Meanwhile you are left dumbfounded as to what just happened and why she would prefer to date a jerk over you.

Now I'm not saying you have to be a jerk to attract a woman. Far from it.

What I am saying is that there is something that these jerks are doing that is creating attraction in the women around them. That’s what it is about.

So there are two components.

First - Attraction isn't a choice

Second - If it isn't a choice, then how can you learn the skill of it and possibly get different results with the women around you?

Ok THAT was a mouthful, would love to hear your thoughts!

Hot Alpha Female

The "Hes Just Not That Into" Rules. Do They Really Apply?

So here are the rules;

He's just not that into you if he is not asking you out

He's just not that into you if he's not calling you

He’s just not that into you, if he’s not dating you

He’s just not that into you, if he is not having sex with you

He's just not that into you if he is having sex with someone else

He's just not that into you if he only wants to see you when he’s drunk

He’s just not that into you if he doesn't want to marry you

He’s just not that into you if he is breaking up with you

He’s just not that into you if he has disappeared on you

He’s just not that into you if he is married (and other insane reasons)

He’s just not that into you if he's a selfish Jerk, bully or real big freak

Well I will admit that is quite of a list, isn't it?

It could potentially be quite depressing. Some of my girlfriends after reading this book, had to practically wipe off ALL the people they were dating. Some of you girls reading will have to do the same.

Now did my girlfriends actually go out and WIPE these people off? Some did and some didn’t. The ones that didn’t are wishing they had.

Now this book and its hard and fast rules did cause a bit of an outrage. The movie even more so.

Girls are plain hissy fit (pissed) off, that such rules apply. And men are in denial about their behavior.

So I kind of wanted to get to the bottom of it all and see what was really going on.

Since this was a book for women, written primarily by a guy ... Guys do you think that it is accurate? More so are any of you guys willing to ADMIT that some of these rules do actually apply?

I think a lot of girls don't like reading this book, because they DO NOT want to accept that the guy/s they are dating, need to be thrown off their potential suitor list.

I will say this one thing that I KNOW is absolutely true when it comes to women.

Women are lean, mean excuse machines! We can think of every excuse under the sun, that will justify a man’s behavior, his lack of calls, his lack of caring, his inability to be a considerate person.

For some reason, women like living in this delusional fantasy land, which usually could not be further removed from the actual truth!

If there is ONE thing this movie did. It was to give permission to other women to tell their girlfriends, look “maybe he is just not that into you”.

I admit I have had these conversations with my friends and they have had that conversation with me! No longer do we have to provide this fake support, only built on temporarily trying to make the other person feel better.

Its so much more liberating being able to say that wonderful catch phrase, being able to have a laugh about it and then yelling out “NEXT!”

Its kind of like bringing a whole new awareness, adding a whole new light on something that was previously left in the dark.

Now I'm not saying that everything in this book should be taken to heart. In fact I have learnt that life doesn't always go by the rules you THINK it should.

Its messy, unplanned and ultimately uniquely spectacular in its own way. So for the ladies YES there will be some unique instances when the situation you have with this guy is unique. And YES things might work out just the way you hoped.

But if there is one line I would say hold the absolute truth in the book/movie it would be this;

Always think of yourself as the rule, rather than the exception.

Would love to hear your thoughts!

Hot Alpha Female

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Why Do You Attract Emotionally Unavaliable Men?

How is it that us women have the unique ability, (similar to that of a cruise missile) to find, attract and date the only emotionally/physically unavailable man in the entire dating market?

I'm telling you that’s a real skill ... and we are good at it, coz lets face it ... we've had a lot of practice.

Now in light of this we could react how 99 percent of the women do and mention every excusable cliché under the sun, like "All the good men are taken, men only want one thing, I'm just not that into him".

Now while your ranting off things like "I'll find him when I'm not looking and there are plenty of fish in the sea" you are missing out on potentially one of the biggest revelations of your dating life.

Among the midst of confusion, frustration and plain denial the single most important truth can be simply put like this.

We pick men who (deep down we know) are emotionally/physically/in some form unavailable to date or commit to us in any way.

Why do we pick these men? Because they are safe. Because we tell ourselves, "hey I can be totally vulnerable and open with this guy, because it ain't going to go anywhere".

So you flirt, act normal, have no inhibitions and feel completely cool, collected and comfortable. What you are in fact doing; is digging your own grave.

Why? Because you are opening yourself up to a man .. who has the emotionally availability of a toothbrush.

But because you are being so open and vulnerable, it allows for the development of a spark of forbidden undeniable attraction.

You think to yourself. Oh crap, now I actually really like him, I'm attracted to him and your mindset starts to ever so slowly shift ... from "no potential" .. to "possible potential".

By this time your head is going ... no no no this can't work! But the attraction is kicking in and you have like ZERO control over it. Your practically possessed. This only results in the worst possible situation, you becoming attached to the outcome and ultimately and ever so unfortunately you become attached to the idea of "being with him" ... the one and only guy who you allowed yourself to open up to.

Then what happens is "the conversation" occurs, expectations crept in, vulnerability shuts down and Ms insecurity all of sudden becomes your best friend. Mr. emotionally/physically/in some form unavailable freaks out because he has gotten into the very thing he was trying to avoid and all hell breaks loose.

You stop doing the very thing that attracted him to you in the first place (being open, vulnerable and emotionally stable).

This of course only leads to a crashing disaster which results in tears, long phone calls to girlfriends, endless tubs of ice-cream and excessively long and agonizing episodes of listening to "love song dedications on the radio".

You find yourself at the start line again and repeat the process, until one day when you finally realize you were part of the problem, beat yourself up, cry a little more and then figure out it all has to stop.

So at this point in time you might be thinking. Ohh great HAF, thanks for the inspirational message, I'm just going to throw myself off a bridge.

Well hey before you do that, let me give you a life line.

And it is this ....

If you were naive and slightly silly enough to get yourself into this situation, then you also have the savviness to pull yourself out.

You can't fix a problem that you don't know about and I'm here to point out a big flashing sign with caution lights saying "don't go there and if you are already there, then get out now!".

Sometimes it takes a good friend or someone you "hate" to point out a cycle which we have been trapped in for a very long time.

Sometimes we just need someone to push us off our chair, slap us on the face and go .. "hey wake up!".

I'll happily apply for that position. And why? Because I've kinda been there (lived there actually) and done that. And I figure that my sometimes (disastrous) dating life, might as well serve some good purpose.

So here it is. You are attracting and dating emotionally unavailable men .. because you are on some level emotionally unavailable yourself.

Whether it be the ability to commit to the idea of even having a long term boyfriend or going on more than 3 dates with the same guy or signing a 24 month phone contract... there is some part of you that is so scared of what "may or may not" happen that you are pushing people away before they even get the chance to know you, like you and want to be with you for an "extended period of time".

So if you keep doing what you have always done, then you will always get what you have always got and in light of this ... you are only left with one option ...

Don't put yourself out of the game.

Accept the responsibility of your tragic dating status, put on your biggest smile, leave your 300 page check list at home, be a good sport, just give it a good old go and at all costs avoid those emotionally unavailable men like you would someone with a severely bad case of gingivitis!!

Now that I've got your attention, in my next post I'll explain exactly how you get go kick ass, chew bubble gum and tackle this problem first hand.

After reading my next post you will be able to go from being Ms emotionally unavailable man magnet to the ultimate emotionally unavailable man repeller and free yourself to date men who are ready for a fulfilling and exciting relationship.

Stay tuned for Wednesday!!

Hot Alpha Female

I Really Like Him - Now What?!

Ok, so lets admit it. There are some times when you meet a guy and you are "Just So INTO Him".

You met, had a great time, really enjoyed his company and now your all caught up in fantasizing what a great boyfriend he will be, where you will get married and the names of your future children.

Some of you may laugh ... but very often this is the trap that a lot of women fall into.

Maybe not so much to that extreme, but when we like a guy most of the time, we are at least sizing him up, of how great he will be in a relationship, in the your life and in bed =)

Most of the time, we are jumping about 10 years ahead and thinking about what it would be like to grow old together and yet you still don't even know his last name.

You are thinking of marrying the guy and you don't even know his favorite food or that really irritating habit he has of biting his finger nails that you simply cannot stand.

So what am I getting at exactly?

Well I’m simply pointing out the number one pitfall women fall into when they are totally into a guy.

DELUSIONAL FANTASIZING and LOOKING WAAAAAAAAAAY TOO FAR AHEAD.

I will admit it happens to the best of us =) So now I want to equip you women with some tips, tricks and exercises that will keep you usefully occupied when you find yourself wearing some big "rose-tinted" glasses.

1) Keep it real. Make sure to take everything at face value. Don't be looking into everything.

Like for example. "He called me at this time and spoke to me for 4.25 minutes and that must mean he is really into me" *Squeals!*

Don't start comparing how he was acting when you were with him and how he is acting now.

Take everything in the present moment. If he was funny when you met him and doesn't seem to be so much, accept that this is his current mood or that he isn't as funny as you first thought.

Don't get all caught up thinking he was a person that he really wasn't.

2) Get a life. Don't be waiting by the phone for him to call you or talk to you. Go do something, anything! Arrange to go meet up with some of your friends. Go do that thing you have been procrastinating over for the past week. Go read a book, go for a walk, take a bubble bath, watch grass grow ...

You see its all about enjoying life. Making the most out of it. Replenishing yourself, so that you have more of yourself to give when you finally get the chance to talk to him.

3) Write it out. Writing is therapeutic. Can you tell by this blog? I have a journal which I right in almost everyday. If someone got their hands on it, I think I would have to shoot them. Because in that journal are all my fears, thoughts and feelings about myself and my life.

I write in there when I'm happy, I write in there when I'm sad or just have something to share.

You see if you get it all out there on the paper, then you can work through those thoughts, instead of taking it out on other people or holding onto them.

4) Talk it out. You know sometimes girls, you just feel insecure. It happens. But you know what? That’s what you have girlfriends for. So if you feel yourself wanting to stay at home by the phone or sit in your room daydreaming, pick up the phone and talk to one of your many girlfriends and let them know what is going on.

Now I’m sure you don't need me to tell you, how to talk. I think this is something that all of us women have mastered hands down.

So you get out there .. and do what your best at!

5) Reason it out. Now I know the phrase "be logical" may seem like a paradox to us women, but we can do it ... trust me!

Sometimes its good to sit down and have a think about what exactly you are attracted to in him.

Sometimes when we fall the hardest, its for the worse type of men. You know the players, the bad asses and so on.

you know this when you sit down to do your thinking about what you like about them .... and your dumbfounded for like the next hour.

Because there is something about them that you just can't put your finger on.

Usually it goes along the lines of "Yeh I dunno, I just really like him ...... *blank stare*".

Now in that case, it can be a very tricky situation - irrational levels are high, logical levels are low and caution lights should be flashing.

Why? because there could be like 5 other girls just like you, who feel the exact same way about him ... who are also having the same conversations in their head, with the same blank stares.

So all I’m saying ladies is that you might have to prepare for a little competition.

Which leads to rule number 6) Fight it out!

But hey .... who doesn't love a cat fight. Let the games begin =)

Wanna know why these men are so attractive to us? Guess you girls will just have to stick around *winks*

Hot Alpha Female