I Really Like Him - Now What?!

Ok, so lets admit it. There are some times when you meet a guy and you are "Just So INTO Him".

You met, had a great time, really enjoyed his company and now your all caught up in fantasizing what a great boyfriend he will be, where you will get married and the names of your future children.

Some of you may laugh ... but very often this is the trap that a lot of women fall into.

Maybe not so much to that extreme, but when we like a guy most of the time, we are at least sizing him up, of how great he will be in a relationship, in the your life and in bed =)

Most of the time, we are jumping about 10 years ahead and thinking about what it would be like to grow old together and yet you still don't even know his last name.

You are thinking of marrying the guy and you don't even know his favorite food or that really irritating habit he has of biting his finger nails that you simply cannot stand.

So what am I getting at exactly?

Well I’m simply pointing out the number one pitfall women fall into when they are totally into a guy.

DELUSIONAL FANTASIZING and LOOKING WAAAAAAAAAAY TOO FAR AHEAD.

I will admit it happens to the best of us =) So now I want to equip you women with some tips, tricks and exercises that will keep you usefully occupied when you find yourself wearing some big "rose-tinted" glasses.

1) Keep it real. Make sure to take everything at face value. Don't be looking into everything.

Like for example. "He called me at this time and spoke to me for 4.25 minutes and that must mean he is really into me" *Squeals!*

Don't start comparing how he was acting when you were with him and how he is acting now.

Take everything in the present moment. If he was funny when you met him and doesn't seem to be so much, accept that this is his current mood or that he isn't as funny as you first thought.

Don't get all caught up thinking he was a person that he really wasn't.

2) Get a life. Don't be waiting by the phone for him to call you or talk to you. Go do something, anything! Arrange to go meet up with some of your friends. Go do that thing you have been procrastinating over for the past week. Go read a book, go for a walk, take a bubble bath, watch grass grow ...

You see its all about enjoying life. Making the most out of it. Replenishing yourself, so that you have more of yourself to give when you finally get the chance to talk to him.

3) Write it out. Writing is therapeutic. Can you tell by this blog? I have a journal which I right in almost everyday. If someone got their hands on it, I think I would have to shoot them. Because in that journal are all my fears, thoughts and feelings about myself and my life.

I write in there when I'm happy, I write in there when I'm sad or just have something to share.

You see if you get it all out there on the paper, then you can work through those thoughts, instead of taking it out on other people or holding onto them.

4) Talk it out. You know sometimes girls, you just feel insecure. It happens. But you know what? That’s what you have girlfriends for. So if you feel yourself wanting to stay at home by the phone or sit in your room daydreaming, pick up the phone and talk to one of your many girlfriends and let them know what is going on.

Now I’m sure you don't need me to tell you, how to talk. I think this is something that all of us women have mastered hands down.

So you get out there .. and do what your best at!

5) Reason it out. Now I know the phrase "be logical" may seem like a paradox to us women, but we can do it ... trust me!

Sometimes its good to sit down and have a think about what exactly you are attracted to in him.

Sometimes when we fall the hardest, its for the worse type of men. You know the players, the bad asses and so on.

you know this when you sit down to do your thinking about what you like about them .... and your dumbfounded for like the next hour.

Because there is something about them that you just can't put your finger on.

Usually it goes along the lines of "Yeh I dunno, I just really like him ...... *blank stare*".

Now in that case, it can be a very tricky situation - irrational levels are high, logical levels are low and caution lights should be flashing.

Why? because there could be like 5 other girls just like you, who feel the exact same way about him ... who are also having the same conversations in their head, with the same blank stares.

So all I’m saying ladies is that you might have to prepare for a little competition.

Which leads to rule number 6) Fight it out!

But hey .... who doesn't love a cat fight. Let the games begin =)

Wanna know why these men are so attractive to us? Guess you girls will just have to stick around *winks*

Hot Alpha Female

I Go On Dates ... With My Brother

Haha, caught your attention there didn't I?

Well you all must be thinking – what in the world does she mean?

HAF are u telling me, that you take your brother with you on dates?

No, no ... wait ... actually he has been on a group date with me once, but does that really count?

No I mean ... I hang out with my brother. Just him and me and we have a great time together. Whether it be going to the movies, cooking at home, or going bush walking, I spend some good quality time with him.

We bond the most when we both do ski patrolling in the winter season.

Its kind of cool to be close to your brother. Its cool to be close to the people in your life. Its cool to spend not only time, but good quality time with the people you care about.

I'm not talking about .. hey lets just hang out, when its convenient. I mean actually scheduling time, prioritizing the important people in your life.If you don't want to make a priority to see them, how important are they to you really?

If I hit a nerve .. well I'm sorry. But it makes you think doesn’t it?

Anyways where am I going with this? So it made me think. Dating and healthy personal relationships. Do they go hand in hand?

Can you have your dating life in the gutter but amazing personal relationships around you??

And the more important question.

Can you have an amazing dating life and have all your other personal relationships in the gutter??

Well let me tell you what I think, even though the answer looks blindingly obvious to me.

Dam straight they go hand in hand!!

You hear the typical argument ... Where life seems out of balance. You love work, but neglect your partner. You love your partner but your not following your ambitions. Your family life and business life are great but your health is shot to pieces.

Life is a balancing act. I take it to heart now, when mum tells me "Everything In Moderation".

I've learned to listen to her too. I tell you she is right like 99.9% of the time. I'm still working on the 0.01%, I will find something dammit!!

But see to me; dating and your friends and family all fall under the same category.Its about people and how you relate to them. I don't care, who they are. How you do one thing, is how you do everything.

So when you yell at your partner or get frustrated easily, you may say ... Its only with him or her.But is it really? You sure you don't do the same with your friends and family.

So I heard from one of the interviews David D conducted with a guy whose name slips my mind at this moment and this is what he said about women in specific.

That you can tell the maturity level of a female by the emotional boundaries she sets herself. Meaning to say that when things start to go wrong with her boyfriend, she doesn't take it out on her best friend. When things go wrong with her family she doesn't expect her boyfriend to solve that problem for her.

There are boundaries and each entity operates within each boundary.

So maybe that seems like I'm contradicting what I just said in the previous paragraph, but maybe I’m not.

Because if you have good, strong boundaries for your partner, for your friends and for your family .. even though they all fall under personal relationships, when something happens with one entity ... not all people are affected.

That’s emotional maturity right there. Some women who are in their 20s have it. Some women in there 50s still don't. Its nothing to do with age and possibly a little to do with experience, willingness to learn and a lot of personal growth.

Why and how can I talk about this? Well simply because maybe I've realized .. I've got a bit of growing up to do =)

See you guys next Monday =)

Hot Alpha Female

Commitment. The Chicken is Involved. The Pig is Committed.

So where have I been?

That could be a very valid question.

To be honest life has been a little crazy.

Recently I just came out of hospital. Never been to hospital for an illness before in my life and don't see why I had to start now.

But here I am ... and now I'm out and willing to share with you my thoughts and my reflections.

Hopefully we will all learn something new.

So firstly what was the reason why I was in there? Well nothing too life threatening.

Just a severe case of tonsillitis, which could have potentially blocked my airway.

Not to mention the fact that I couldn't put anything into my mouth, it was excruciating to swallow anything and I was getting very dehydrated.

So 3 days later and more fluid and drugs pumped through me than a local pharmacy, I'm alive, kicking and feeling better than ever.

ok well not better than ever.

But hey I'm getting there. Well enough to write a decent post for you guys that’s for sure.

So what did I learn while I was in there?

Well two things.

One about commitment. And the other about self care.

The second is pretty obvious isn't it?

But the first one, that one was thrown out of left field a little huh?

Well you all know that I love throwing you off balance? hehe

So what you may not know is that I was feeling pretty crook about 3 weeks ago, for the same thing with my throat.

I got over it and then spent a week, not practicing self care, filled with eating at random times, too much stress, too much going out and not enough sleep.

There were a couple of stressful assignments, walks in the drizzling rain and seminars squeezed in there which all required a lot of mental and physical exertion.

This one seminar I did go was absolutely life-changing though. I would pretty much come home every night for 3 nights in a room and tweet all the random and wonderful epiphanies I was having.

(You can follow me on twitter here)

I can't tell you all the random and wonderful things that we did while we were there one the last night we had a Q and A section where 10 people from the audience got to ask any question they wanted.

So naturally. I had a question.

Ready for it?

How do you commit to something?

So I asked this question and the crowd laughed. I was like ... is the answer more obvious than I think it is?

So I added to it and asked, well how do you re-enforce that commitment?

So there was my question, sitting up there on the board staring at me.

What I didn't know at the time, was that for every question that was asked you had a mini - intervention, where you had to answer more questions about your question.

So as I was waiting for the speaker to get to my question, I was starting to get a little anxious.

Anxious that he was going to get me to commit something that I didn't want to or say stuff that I didn't exactly want to share in front of 150 people.

And then ....

It was my turn.

I got the microphone (which was an easy thing for me now)

And this was our conversation

Him: Jennifer, in order to re-enforce commitment, you first have to commit to something.

Me: Well what do you mean?

Him: Name one area that you would like to commit to.

Me: I don’t want to commit to anything

Him: Yes I know.

And by this time I’m thinking. Dammit commitment. I can't even commit to those 24 month phone contracts. Seriously they like ask you for money every month and there are exit fees if you want to exit early. Its like jail.

Him: See the reason why you haven't committed to anything, is because there hasn't been anything that you have ever really wanted.

Me: hmmmmmmm (shite)

Him: If you don't want to commit to something for yourself, then why not do something for your family?

What is something that you really wanted to do?

blah blah back and forth and we decided that I would commit to take my entire family over to Japan next year on a ski trip by Jan 2010.

But see that conversation was so much more than just that.

I walked out of there, thinking, what in my life have a I truly ever committed to?

And what would my life look like if I gave something 1000%.

I mean we all talk a big game, but how many of us actually live that?

It was a huge wake up call for me. A real big smack on the face.

Then like 4 days later, I was smack sick as anything in hospital, which gave me a lot of time to think.

Before that though, when I got home, I got out my journal and started writing out a list of things that I would 1000% commit to.

No excuses. No turning back.

I wrote out a list of commitments that I would eventually integrate into my daily life.

And you know which one was the biggest one for me?

Its about boys, so your going to love it.

Ok here it is .. don't laugh. Or do. Whatever.

"To date only men that are emotionally available who have the potential to become a long term boyfriend".

Now it seems simple right?

I mean what is so hard about writing that commitment.

Well its a lot harder, when you didn't even know that you were a commitment phobe or that you were going after or attracting emotionally unavailable men.

But I committed to that.

That’s one of my main commitments. And so far I have lived up to that.

As part of the commitment formula its also important to re-enforce that with immediate action.

So right then and there I like write down a list of people that I needed to cut out of my life, because they just weren't what I was looking for.

And I did it. I cut them out of my life. That night.

And can I tell you, it was one of the best most liberating feelings in the world.

See I used to think that committing to something, would create a whole new world of fears.

I always thought, hey if you commit to something, there are things that you will be required to do that you don’t want to do.

Therefore if you commit to something, you expose yourself to more fearful situations.

But here is the thing.

When you just commit, burn your bridges .... you shed all doubt within you mind.

Because there is only one option now. Forward.

There is no sideways. There is no backwards. Just straight ahead.

Committing sheds your fears, gives your clarity and puts you in exactly the right direction that you need to go.

You should all try it sometime.

Thoughts?

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Rejection First Hand!

Ok I just had the biggest lesson of a life time. It has to do with perfectionism and being able to handle rejection.

So here is the thing. Sorry if I have not gotten back to some of your comments and thoughts lately I have been in the lovely Goldcoast having a great time with my bestfriend to celebrate her 22nd Birthday.

There are a whole bunch of stories there, which I will have to share with you another time.

Just before that I was working at the Health Expo as a promotions girls to help promote this website http://www.meetyourpersonaltrainer.com.au which will be launching in like 2 days!

SO as you know with any type of promotions you have to get out there engage with people, capture interest and close the sale.

In many respects it would be similar to a guy approaching a girl and attempting to get her interest.

Well here is what I experienced first hand! Man now I know exactly what it feels like to be a guy, and how hard approaching girls can be.

So this is what happened to me and how I overcame it.

Basically we were told our sales targets and we knew how many signups we needed and how many people's names we needed to get.

Now I'm still one of those people that needs to work on being able to handle the pressure. Coz right now I crumble like there is no 2moro.

Its pathetic. But hey you live and learn.

So because I knew that there were these sales targets and I felt like I needed to get something out of these people, the interactions and the responses that I was getting were pretty pathetic aye.

A whole bunch of people walked passed me and I gave this half assed approach. It was pathetic. So anyways one of the owners, then comes up to me and says this.

Him: "Jen, how you going?"

Me: *Nervous laugh* " Yeh not bad".

Him: "Whatcha doing Jen? ... Your looking like a Sales person right now."

Me: "Are you serious? I can't stand Sales people and I don't even like being sold to".

Him: "You just need to relax and be yourself. Jen you are the most outgoing person I know, just have a conversation with them, you are not selling them anything. All you are doing is raising awareness."

Me: "Just be myself, have a conversation. Ok I can do that".

Result.

In the next 30 minutes I signed up 2 people to their website.

So what changed?

Well if you can't tell from the conversation, I stopped coming from the mindset of wanting something from these people.

In a very big way, I was being needy. What is being needy? Wanting or expecting something from someone.

This comes down the basics of approaching women or approaching anyone in particular. If you go to get ... you get nothing in return.

But if you go to give, you get everything.

So instead of standing there looking and sounding like a sales girl, I just started to interact with people.

This is one of the best approaching techniques around.

I found what worked best for me, was using something in the environment and using that to strike up a conversation. So I would grab someone and point to their shirt, something that they were doing or holding. Whatever was around them and bring it back to them.

Because lets face it, people love to talk about themselves. So get them talking about themselves and then they are more willing to hear what you have to say.

Whether it be making a sale, or approaching a woman, the most important thing is that you need to develop the rapport.

If you don't have the rapport, you have nothing.

Remember that one.

So what else did I learn? Well this next part is a very important lesson. But you guys are going to have to tune in on Monday!!

But it has to do with how my best friend was able to kick my ass in laser squirmish, even though she has terrible aim and has never played before in her life. haha

Hope you enjoyed this post and feel free to leave your thoughts.

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Hot Alpha Female and Rejection First Hand! Preview

Ok so a lot of you guys email me asking me how you can overcome rejection.

I've made video posts, blog entries and talked myself black and blue about how to overcome it.

Recently I just had an experience which put me back in line with that fear. And really allowed me to empathize and relate with you guys more.

In fact. I spend the last 3 days dealing with rejection severely. And it made me remember how gripping that fear was.

Because here is the thing, rejection is something that we are not only going to experience when it comes to the dating arena, its related to every other part of your life.

Business, family, career, social .... you name it ... fear of rejection is hidden in there somewhere.

Life is all about figuring out what you want and then developing to courage to go out and get it!

So in the next blog post coming out on Monday, I'm going to share with you, how I did have to approach and get rejected to many strangers, hot strangers might I add ... and how in the end I was able to overcome this approach anxiety and reach my desired outcome.

Stay tuned for Monday guys!

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Easter Weekend Spectacular Part 2

So we are at this restaurant which is practically like the only restaurant in open in the entire street besides KFC and McDonalds.

So we go in and its packed and there are literally like only 2 waiters and a couple of the kitchen hands. We ask if there are any tables and there doesn't seem to be any.

Just as we are about to leave the waiter notifies us that there is a table hidden around the corner. We check it out and realize that its like prime position and so we grab the last table left in the restaurant.

Still a little distraught that there will be no dancing tonight, we commiserate by ordering lots of food, with no thought of expense.

So we order and the food comes and just as we are digging in, we see one of the waiters come over to our table and stands near us with a nervous look on her face. We ask her what is wrong and she tells us that she is hiding from the police because she doesn't have the proper licensing to be a restaurant waitress. Yes in Australia, you need a license for pretty much everything .. Lets just say that I wouldn't be surprised if we didn't need a license soon to use public toilets or something.

So we chat to her, find out what is going on and try and calm her down because she is fairly distraught. We do all of this while eating, drinking and socializing.

My best friend and I are thinking, this has been a pretty interesting night so far and after the police have left and the waitress has calmed down we are ready to get going.

Before we have a chance to get the bill both of the waiters serving our table inform us .. that our bill has been settled an thank us for helping them out.

I look over at my friend, who has the biggest smile on her face of complete disbelief, we offer to pay again, but they refuse and we give both of them a hug and head off.

Its now 1am in the morning and we are deciding what we should do next. We could go home. OR we could go to star city. Its Sydney casino and is open 24/7.

Thinking that we have been bloody lucky so far, we think, yeh "why not?!".

By this time the streets are deserted and the city is looking like a little bit of a ghost town. Sydney nightlife is great, but at the same time, it kinda sucks (that’s a technical term). Everything is like on lockdown by like 1-3am in the morning depending on where you go.

When we get to Star City our jaws drop. This is where all the people are! Its packed to the rims, the bars are pumping, all the tables are full. It was like the whole of Sydney crammed into the casino!! It was on!!

So my best friend has this thing, that when she is at the casino with her friends she loses money. I personally think its all in her head ... but hey whatever makes her happy.

Neways we had no intention of gambling, we just wanted to get free drinks which you are entitled to over there and to spend more time hanging out.

As we are walking down the isles ... I see someone(I don't know who) drop a $10 chip on the floor.

I see it and then go and pick it up. I stand there for like 2 minutes, trying to find someone to claim it, so I can give it back to them.

One of the dealers on the table catches my eye and says "finder's keepers".

I look over to my best friend, who has that same look of disbelief on her face .. and we just think we are having a great night.

So we split our $10 chip into 2 $5 chips and just see how we go.

We end up splitting up and she goes off to the roulette tables and I go to this spinney wheel thing.

So here I am now, in my clubbing outfit at the casino, essentially by myself.

People are staring left right and centre, I'm feeling my safety can be compromised at any point in time, so defenses are running quite high.

So I’m at the table and there are essentially only two points at which I could enter this table. One from the left and one from the right.

One the left hand side is the seediest guy I have ever seen in my life. He has been literally staring non stop at me since I got to the table and I'm getting stalkers vibes from him.

One the right hand side I see 3 guys probably in their late 20s being a little loud and obvious.

I'll choose young loud crazy people over old stalkers looking guys any day.

So I stand behind them, watching the wheel, so I can get a feel for what I'm going to bet on.

I kid you not, as I'm standing there, they all start nudging eachother and talking amongst themselves and looking back at me and staring.

I'm literally like 1 meter away from them as they are doing this.

So by now I’m quite irritated and sick of feeling like an object that is just looked and pointed at all night ... I look up at one of them and say "Way to make it obvious" with a bitchy look on my face.

They don't seem too fazed by my response and continue talking to me anyways. lol

So 10 minutes later they are all like my best buddies and I have my best friend coming in and checking on me like every 30 minutes.

The latest report so far was that she was down a fair bit. Like 300. I tell her its time to go. She wanders off again, before I can stop her.

Then 10 minutes later .. she comes back with a man in tow. I'm thinking to myself .. ohhh man she has this guy attached to her now, which is going to use ME and the 3 guys I just met, to get rid of him.

She warmly introduces him to me and then informs me with a smile on her face that she just won $1800 - with money that wasn't even hers.

I'm like .. "waaaaaaat??!!"

Apparently she met this guy at the table and said a certain number was going to pay out.

He followed her lead .. backing it with a $100 chip 3 times and nothing happened.

Then with his last chip he puts it on the same number ... and before they know if it wins he tells her .. if we win, we are splitting the winnings. She agrees. Their number comes up. They win $3600 and he splits it with her.

She introduces him to me ... and he says hello and then says he is very grateful she gave him the heads up and says he is going to head home and he does so with a massive smile on his face.

And that was it …

My best friend shares the winnings with me.

By this time is it like 4am in the morning, we figure our luck has run out and we catch a cab back to where my car is parked and head home.

All in all ... a very interesting spontaneous and profitable night.

With absolutely no strategy whatsoever.

The preceding days were filled with boat parties, clubbing, group dates, Max Brenner, no drinking, very late nights/early mornings and a whole lot of fun, laughing, dinning and flirting.

All in all that Easter was SPECTACULAR and it taught me that NO STRATEGY IS THE BEST STRATEGY OF THEM ALL.

Something to think about …

Hot Alpha Female

Crazy Easter Spectacular Part 1

To be honest I was saying to myself, I'm going to take it easy this weekend. I literally did not have anything planned. But here is the thing that I have noticed about not planning.

When you "see how it goes" and have no expectations what so ever, you end up having some of the best, most memorable experiences of a lifetime. Literally if I had sat down on Thursday night and tried to think of all the cool and random things that were going to precede that weekend ... I think my brain would have exploded.

And you think I joking. Isn't that cute…..

So literally I'm going to do a recap of my Friday night. I'm going to go into as much detail as I can and then maybe give you a quick recap of my entire weekend without too much detail, because lets face it.

I don't kiss and tell. If you didn't notice already.

If you want some of those stories, head over to Honey and Lance coz those guys do a better job at that, then I ever could! (haha love you guys).

Plus my dad reads this blog .. I think.

And you know, I actually don't have some twisted dysfunctional relationship with my dad. I actually like him. We get along... most ... some ... of the time, when he doesn't patronize me.

So its Friday night and I have done the family rounds of visiting every relative I could have humanly possibly known and eaten more than my stomach could handle.

Very typical. Especially if your Asian. Especially if you are like me. So I’m at home now, relaxing, not particularly wanting to do anything or go anywhere.

My lovely mother then after having a very foreign language conversation on the phone informs me, that I now have to go dinner with more “relatives” to “eat.”

I give her an .. "are you serious??!" look.

She sympathizes with me, and then tells me I have to go.

Me being not so happy about this, start explaining to her, in a tone of voice that may be a little more irritated than usual, that I do not want to go.

These family dinner happen a couple times a month. My brother who has a girlfriend has not attended one since like 6 months ago. He is always missing out on family occasions, because he is doing something with his girlfriend.

Just because I don't have anything on that night and I'm not away with my "ONE" and only boyfriend, I have basically attend for him.

Not fair. Quite immature, but I was annoyed.

So I call up my best friend who I previously just msged and said that I didn't feel like going out. And then asked her, “do you wanna go out?”

She laughs, because she is obviously used to my insanity and the fact that I never feel like doing anything, before I go and do it.

She says its on, I get out of a family dinner pick her up in my car and we head off to the city.

Might I add before, that its also really annoying going to certain family occasions because I think that every single one of my cousins in Australia is like in a long term relationship right now. Except for me. Like I don't actually think any of my older uncle an aunties understand what dating is ... where you are seeing a lot of guys, but just haven't picked a poor sucker to drag to on family occasions.

That’s for the extremely privileged.

So anyways ... I'm in the car with my girlfriend and start to taste and smell the freedom lingering in the air.

Its 8:30pm and the night is still very very very young.

So mind you this ...its me and my best friend heading out on EASTER FRIDAY and expecting to go clubbing in the city.

Keep that in your mind, because it comes to play like ohhhh a couple of hours down into our night.

So we get to the city and we are still alive. I was driving and this is a very good outcome.

We head down to George street and the streets are pumping but not really.

I mean there are people and there are people in the clubs but not as many as we thought there should be.

So the night was still early and as we were walking down George street we came across our favorite place in the world.

Wait for it……

Galaxy world.

Yep.

You did just read that right.

And I’m not going to hold my head in shame either. Coz there are a lot of things I get excited about in life and this is one of them.

Now I’m sure you guys know of the game we were playing. And its the one where you trade your money for tokens and then put these tokens into the machine to push more tokens down and hopefully in the process win a prize that is NO WHERE NEAR worth the amount of money you just poured into this machine.

Whoa that was a really crappy definition so I’m going to see if I can find a picture. Actually come to think of it, next time I have a night out I will take pictures so you guys can really see it all. Then I won't have to tell you. I'll just show you =)

And I'm sorry, Google just isn't helping me out today. But if anyone thinks they know what I’m talking about, send me a link to the picture. lol.

Anyways so we play this game not to win the prizes but just because it so dam fun, trying to win the prizes. You know that saying that goes along the lines of "its about the journey not the destination" well the same applies to these token machines.

So we use all our money. And we are like, should we stay or should we go. Then we see a guy who is doing really well on these machines. He has got both hands loaded full of token coins and there is like loads and loads of them spilling out of the machine.

Its all very exciting. So we watch him. Coz we are just fascinated and I don't know about you. But I like to watch. lol

Take that how you will.

He then notices us watching and starts talking to us. Can't remember what he said or who said what, but we made friends with him and ended up getting to play with all his tokens with him.

We won four watches with all his money and he gave them all to us, because apparently he just does it for the fun of it.

Then at the end of it, he said it was a pleasure meeting us and headed off. Now this is just a side note, but I'll put it in here for the “guys”.

There is something really attractive about someone who interacts with you and doesn't want anything at the end of it. I am more impressed with a guy who can you can have a great conversation or interaction with and at the end ... he doesn't ask you for your number and he can treat it like a once off interaction. A guy who has no expectations. Because here is the thing, expectations kill the mood and only disappoint.

Of course you have to have standards blah blah, but having certain expectations of how things should happen and work out, leaves no ROOM for you to thoroughly enjoy the present situation that is in front of you.

You end up being in your head instead of interacting with your life and dealing with what comes your way.

Ok side note over.

So my friend and I are very happy. We just managed to have so much fun, with someone else's money and obtain the prizes too.

Now we are in a great mood to dance.

So we walk enthusiastically over to one of the bars in the street that just an hour or 2 ago was pumping and full of people. We look in and the chairs are stacked on the tables and the place is deserted. We then look out on the street and realize that there is practically NO-ONE on the street ....

Now here is the only one thing about being young. You don't know shite. You think the world is bigger, better and revolves around you, when it so clearly doesn't.

Awareness is the first step right?

So as we are trying to figure out why a club would close so early on a Easter Friday a policeman walks up to us and tell us that all the clubs along the street closed at 10pm.

I look at my watch. 11:15pm. Crap.

I look at my best friend who is just waiting for a reaction from me and I say " I can't believe we just game up clubbing for galaxy world!!".

She sympathies with me and the asks me .. lets eat....

I avidly agree with her all is well and we head off ...

What happens after that, made our night and many more to come! ....

See what happens next, tune in 2moro!

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